There are all kinds of expectations. Expectations on how society wants you to be, expecations your parents have on your behaviour, expecations on others and even your own expectations of yourself.

But why have expectations of something or someone? I've never really quite understood the idea behind it, it doesn't really ever do any good any way, does it? 

I hardly ever have any expectations of anybody or anything, because first of all, it mostly turns out in disappointments. I think the worst form of expectation is the ones people have on others. 

We all understand why our mother or father expects us to be polite to guests, or be good in school, they do it because they want us to be better persons and get confirmation on them raising you right. It's very understandable for yourself to have expectations on yourself, you want yourself to be better and it's because you know you can do it. Everyone know the expectations that society has for you will never ever go away, no matter how much you meet those expectations. It has never happened and it will never happen. So why even bother.

 

But why do we have expectations on others, and why does your friends and others have expectations of you?

Not only will the person be disappointed (most of the times), but it will also put an uncomfortable pressure on yourself. When people have expectiations of you, and you feel like you have to live up to them, you lose yourself in the midst. We can't form our lives for others. We have to stay true to ourselves and accept who we are. I therefore think it's bad to ever have expectations of someone. Why put someone under the pressure? Why expect them to be or act the way you want them to?

 

I feel like people have expectations of me sometimes, and I might be wrong about it but for me it's kind of obvious when someone is expecting you to be this and that or do this and that. If there's one thing I hate to do, it's to disappoint people. Nothing brings me down more than hearing or seeing someone I care about being disappointed and upset. But should I really do something or be something I'm not comfortable with just so I won't disappoint them? No way. 

 

I rather disappoint them, and feel bad about it than do something that's not me. Call that egoistic or whatever you may, I'm just speaking my mind.

 

I'm tired of people trying to "fix me" when I'm happy with the way I am. I haven't asked for anyone's help, but I do appreciate you wanting me to be better, to improve myself, to not be good enough as I am. 

 

Don't get me wrong though, I really do think it's good that people around you want to help you. But I think it's only okay when you, yourself, has asked for them to help. It's not okay to expect people to do or be things when they haven't said they want to change it. When they haven't said "I want you to help me do this". 

 

There is a difference with helping, and expecting.

 

So people, try not to have expectations of someone or something. It's hardly ever anything good. Instead, support whatever the person you care about does, and only help if they've asked for it.

 

If I had something about myself that I wanted to improve, I'd do it. And I'd ask people for help if I needed it. But otherwise, please don't make me feel like I'm not good enough as I am.